E205: Sales Negotiations with Kwame Christian – Part 2 of 4

January 8, 2024


Why do you think effective pauses are crucial in communication, especially in a sales context?


Kwame Christian, Director of the American Negotiation Institute, joins me to talk about salespeople, negotiation skills, and your obligation to use confrontation when persuading others.


Some gems from Part 1:

“The easiest thing you can do is look at it as an opportunity (confrontation).”

“…it’s basically your duty at that point.”

“There is gold on the other side of that tension”


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Kwame’s Bio:

Kwame Christian, Esq., M.A. is the Director of the American Negotiation Institute where he conducts negotiation and conflict management workshops around the country. As an attorney and mediator with a bachelors of arts in Psychology, a Master of Public Policy, and a law degree, Kwame brings a unique multidisciplinary approach to making difficult conversations easier. In addition to his role with the American Negotiation Institute, Kwame also serves as a professor at The Ohio State University Moritz College of Law, the top ranked dispute resolution program in the country, and Otterbein University’s MBA program.


He is the author of the best selling book Nobody Will Play With Me: How to Use Compassionate Curiosity to Find Confidence in Conflict and his TEDx Talk, Finding Confidence in Conflict, was the most popular TED Talk on the topic of conflict of 2017. Kwame also hosts the top negotiation podcast in the world, Negotiate Anything. The show has been downloaded over 1,000,000 times and has listeners in 183 different countries.


Kwame’s Links:
Website: 
https://americannegotiationinstitute.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kwamechristian

  • Show Transcript

    Jason: So excited that you’re here. Welcome to another part of my conversation with Kwame Christian. Here you go. Enjoy this part 2.


    Kwame: They might be trying to adjust their position in a way that allows them to save face and feel good about themselves. And again, if we rescue them from that productive tension by saying something, we’re cutting off that cognitive process. So in a lot of times we need to sit there and wait, let this process work and it doesn’t feel good a lot of times, but you have to take the time and see what happens on the other side.


    Jason: Yeah, cause what I have seen many times, and this is just life, right? This is our, again, the lizard part of our brain that we’ve discussed where something negative happens and then moving forward you want to avoid that negative thing cause there’s an association, right? So you touch a hot stove, you realize that sucked and so you just don’t want to do that again. You kind of have this fear, this hesitation, you’re around a hot stove. And so same thing happens with salespeople, right? As you can tell them to sit in that silence and wait during the attention and just see what happens. Well the first time they do that, if the other person comes back and then basically hits them with more objections or says no or walks away from the deal, then they associate that silence with that negative outcome. And so one of the biggest things for anyone listening to this, if you had that is just, reset it.


    Jason: Try to always look at it from the positive. Optimistic. I mean that’s one experience you had. Not all of them. I mean if you do it every single time there’s something you’re doing wrong. Like if everyone says no after you do that silence. But it’s happened before. Just try not to be gun shy and try not to rush into it because of one negative experience. And I think it’s so great. I mean cause sometimes people are just processing. Sometimes people need a minute and then they think about and they go, okay this is good. And like you said, people want to buy, they don’t want to be sold to. So if some people, if they feel like you’re working your magic, you’re trying to manipulate them and then they actually do want it, they got to figure out, okay, how do I, how do I make it sound like this was my idea, which is one of the things I use a lot with people is helping them realize it was their idea because they’re really smart and so they must have come up with this idea and so I’m just here to facilitate.


    Kwame: That’s a great way to think about it. That’s fantastic. And when I think about my mediations and my negotiations and just difficult conversations in general, the worst thing that happens with the use of the effective pause is somebody says what? They might just say, is there anything else? Or do you have a question? Or something like that. I’d be a little bit awkward, but I say, Oh no, I was just giving you time to think and then I just move on. That’s the worst thing that can happen because right when you think about the potential negative outcomes, silence has very few negative ramifications. The consequences are minimal. But if you care to compare that to the other alternative where you say something that you regret, you can’t really do much about that. I have a four year old and I always say you can’t put the toothpaste back in the tube. Sometimes when things come out you kind of have to live with that new reality. So we’ll have all the potential mistakes you make. There are fewer negative consequences if the pause doesn’t work the way that you’d like it to.


    Jason: So how much of that, I’m just picturing, right? So your background, mediation, negotiations, two parties in mediation, maybe they’re required to be there or they’ve agreed to be there, they’re trying to do some outcome versus let’s say a sales interaction where I would really like there to be an end result of our negotiation in the sales. You know, I’m a salesperson, you’re a prospect, but there’s no requirement. Right? Like they’re not required to sit there and go through this process versus like a mediation. What kind of difference do you see? And I’m just thinking about like how much different is it like mediating like in a legal sense versus sales, what translates well and what doesn’t translate well?


    Kwame: Yeah. Well, when it comes to the context, you have to consider the context too. So let’s think about mediation. It’s two people who have been in litigation or they don’t like each other.


    Jason: Yeah, true. True. They’re not starting off on a good foot, is that what you’re saying?


    Kwame: But what’s interesting is that the way that I like to do mediations, at least to start off is I separate the parties. So even though they’re not there on the best of circumstances, I can still build a relationship of trust where we can talk freely. There might be laughter and some levity in there and it’s okay. But if you have the people there, then that tension can become unproductive. And so we don’t like that. So that’s a key difference. I think one of the main differences is that there is a situation with sales where there is a much, I think Glossier potential outcome. It’s either, okay, I stay where I am right now. The status quo, this is comfortable, or potentially I engage in uh,  begin a relationship where I advanced my situation. And so I think the upside is greater in sales. It’s easier to have a positive orientation and there’s not that conflict where it’s like, Hey, I don’t like you personally and I think you’re wrong. I might disagree or am I just, I prefer the status quo right now, those types of things. And so it’s a different type of conflict. I prefer the sales one. It’s a little bit easier to deal with.


    Kwame: But still it’s a blessing though, because as a mediator, there’s really nothing on the line. I get paid either way. I don’t get a commission if there’s a deal. But in sales, because for me, I’m selling negotiation trainings, there’s a big upside for me. And so I feel a little bit more pressure actually in the, uh, the sales type of difficult conversations because my lifestyle changes depending on how this deal goes.


    Jason: Right. Well, and that’s, it’s interesting because that sounds like the difference between, let’s say a commission salesperson or someone who’s making commissions and bonuses versus a salaried employee, right? Like you show up and you do your job and you get paid whether you’re good or not. Like there’s some level of performance expectation, but still it’s like at the end of the day, based on whatever happened, you made your money versus sales where, well, if you have the right comp plan, it’s all about you and your, your success. 


    Jason: So let’s talk about negotiation and creating win-win situations. You know, I encounter a lot of salespeople that are worried about using manipulation, pushing people in the buy things. They feel like the industry of sales or the profession of sales has a bad wrap where it’s like the salesperson or the business has, is winning at the expense of the prospect. Right? So it’s a win lose, not necessarily a win-win, which obviously isn’t correct. There are some industries that work that way and some companies that do, but it’s not that way. So let’s talk about like negotiation and sales and win-win in your experience. 


    Kwame: Yeah. And so I think it’s important to recognize how to distinguish the two processes. And this is the way I think about it. And to make it easier for me. So for me, I think about sales as generating interest and negotiation is more about closing the deal. And so they’re cousins in my mind. I mean they’re right there, siblings almost twins, but they’re right there. And so for me, the reason I like to distinguish these two processes is because if it gets muddy then the persuasive processes are not as effective. So if I’m in a sales type of conversation and they started talking about lowering the price, the issue is at that point, I’m not even sure if you’re at the point where you have truly reached that level of commitment where I need to start negotiating price, are you even interested or are you just trying to lower my price in order to get a better deal with somebody else?


    Kwame: That’s not clear to me. And so once I’m closer to the point in the sales funnel or the sale discussion where I believe I am the guy, then we can start talking about what the details of the deals are, what terms work better for you. But for me, when I’m generating interest, I want to just make sure, Hey, is this something you really want to buy just to make sure that things are productive? Because I’d used slightly different techniques in different parts of the conversation.


    Jason: I love it because you’re right, when it comes to something like price, right? Are we negotiating price or still in the sales part where we’re talking about value, right? Is it a price issue because you don’t understand or appreciate the value or is there literally a constraint on the money and is this going to result in you being a good customer? Because a lot of times in my experience, I’m sure you’ve had the same thing, lower price or negotiate price and kind of give up some position on your side to get the deal done. Generally results in a client you may not want longterm.


    Kwame: Yeah, exactly. Exactly. I know the ones for me, the, the clients that are the most cost-sensitive were the people who ended up being the most problematic and that might be for the reason that they don’t truly value the service or they don’t really appreciate the work. Whatever it is. I just know that that’s a rule of thumb that I followed and I heard it from my mentors. I was like, ah, no, they seem okay. And then a year later I’m like, oh it’s true.


    Jason: It’s always, and it’s always true and I’m always having that conversation with new sales reps or people that are struggling, who are wanting to negotiate price with a manager, like with someone like me or consultant who’s trying to help and like, Hey, you know, what can we do on this deal? And they’re basically trying to, they’re now advocating for the customer to try to sell the business and the management on why the customer needs a better deal. And it’s just, it holds true all the time. I mean, those customers generally, they don’t value it. They don’t have as much skin in the game. I mean, there’s something to be said about when you’re paying for something and you value it, then you’re gonna use it. You’re gonna appreciate it.


    Kwame: Exactly. One thing too about the, uh, the win-win methodology that I think can be problematic sometimes is that when we think about win-win as the only way to negotiate, then we kind of get locked into this idea that I need to compromise in order to get the deal done. A lot of times when people think about negotiation, it’s not necessarily negotiation, it’s kind of losing with style.


    Kwame: The person said, Hey, can I have a discount? You said, yes, great. Close the deal. Okay, well let’s take a step back. The question that we need to ask ourselves is, number one, did they need a discount? Right? We ask them, I think we’ve all been in that situation where we’ve already committed in our minds to buying this thing and then we say, ah, why not? I’ll ask for a discount if I get it, great. If not, I’ll still buy. And so we need to challenge our assumptions that compromise needs to happen in that regard. And really when it comes to negotiation, I don’t think people should adopt a necessarily a win win methodology. They should have a flexible approach. It’s like, okay, what is the strategy best suited for this particular outcome? Usually I will say this, usually win-win does get it done right?


    Kwame: You want to have that collaborative approach but sometimes the person might be trying to push you into doing something that doesn’t work for you and so in that situation you need to have a little bit more of an assertive style where compromise is inappropriate and so that’s something that’s really important especially on the sales side to pay attention to because we’re so focused on closing deals that sometimes we say to ourselves, I’m going to give up whatever it takes to close the deal as long as I have some kind of margin. But again, kind of going back to what it is that you said, what kind of clients are we attracting? Is this truly a good deal


    Jason: And I can’t think of the phrases I would rather use instead of win-win but that’s making my brain think about like something else like around value and value instead of win-win. Right? So like making sure both sides are getting value instead of a feeling like this winning like, cause normally when you think of winning, someone has to lose. Right? And so when, when is this catchy great term, which you know, most people use. I use it all the time and it’s something better than win, lose or lose, lose, which a lot of reps do. You know, they’ll do lose win where the company’s losing in order to, you know, help the client. But it’s something to think about. Definitely have to come up with some term. Maybe we could chat about it afterwards. Something other than win-win. But it’s like value-based and success based. Right. So again, going back to what you said earlier, sales is about helping your prospects become clients and then be successful in getting from where they are now to a better place in their life or in their business, whatever that is. And so what’s a good phrase for that?


    Kwame: I think the best way to think about it is using a collaborative approach. And so regardless, I’m working with you in some capacity, especially in a sales type of thing. There’s no true conflict in the sense that I am against you, which is great because ultimately if everything works out and there should be a long term relationship and so we want to orient it in this way, so instead of thinking it as them sitting across the table from us, we are coming to their side of the table and looking at the problem from a similar perspective to see what we can do. I think about it too. Also one of the things that people say is that negotiation is the art of deal making. I think about it more as the art of deal discovery. So what I’m going to do is I’m going to work with you to see if a deal exists. I need to learn more about you or more about your company, your perspective and see if there is a deal to be had. Because if I think about it as deal making, then I might feel unnecessary and inappropriate pressure to make a deal and force a deal when it’s not appropriate.


    Jason: That’s it for part two. Make sure to subscribe so you can catch all of these episodes. Part 3 and part 4 coming up soon. cutterconsultinggroup.com you can find the transcripts, show notes, and Kwame’s links. As always, keep in mind everything in life is sales and people remember the experience you gave them.


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By Jason Cutter August 27, 2025
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Treat recruiting like a sales funnel by writing magnetic job posts, adding “hoops” that filter out the wrong candidates, and testing real-world behaviors like follow-up. This approach flips hiring from chaos into a scalable system—so you attract the right reps, faster, and avoid the expensive revolving door. In Part 2 of this series, I’ll show you exactly how I scaled this process to hire 50 salespeople without the chaos—complete with templates, filters, and lessons learned. Don’t miss it. And if you think that there might be some ways to improve your hiring process, contact us and we can do a free Hiring System Assessment to determine where the biggest impact can be made to help you fill your sales team.
By Jason Cutter February 26, 2025
How Can You Predict The Future Of Sales Ops? One of the keys to sales success is to be able to predict the future – what that other person is thinking, what they might say, what they will experience, how they will feel about the product/service. But what can you do – from a sales ops leadership perspective – to predict the future in masse of all the potential customers that will flow into and out of the sales process/funnel? That is a really tough one, but it is doable. Meeting Prospective Customers Where They Are The key is to always meet the prospective customers where they are and with the experience they hope to find. It’s a common theme now in these articles because it’s important AND widely disregarded – your potential customers do not care about you, your sales team, your company, your industry. They don’t care about your stats, your testimonials, your logos. They don’t care about your mission statement or your values. They only care about themselves. They also firmly believe that there is currently unlimited choice for any product/service, which means that everything in their mind is a commodity. Easily replaceable and interchangeable. Nothing (other than iPhones…which you can only get from Apple) is special to consumers unless they feel like it should be special. Are You Still Making It All About You? There is a good chance you are still running a marketing, sales funnel that is all about you. I bet if I looked at your company’s website that from the top down it’s all about you (the company). How great you are. What you do for people. What you have done for others. I bet if I tried to speak with your sales team, I will be made to go through your process whether I like it or not. Maybe fill out a form and wait for a response. Or made to call into a toll free number, even though I don’t want to talk to someone yet. Or made to use a chat widget on a site to get started. I bet when I speak with your sales team, 70-80% of the conversation will be about them, your company, and how amazing you all believe you are. This is all fair. No one starts a company to be mediocre. The goal is to provide value and make money. The missing piece, again like I said above, is no one cares about your goals. They only care about themselves. Predicting What Customers Want From The Sales Experience Back to your mission as sales ops leader – predict what massive amounts of prospective customers are going to want from the Sales Experience. It’s why I wrote about it last week and even offered up a book for free to help in any way that I can. To succeed at your mission, you have to stay ahead of the curve of what the public, and specifically – your buying demographic, psychographic, and valuegraphics, want from that experience. Key Questions To Shape The Sales Experience Do they want to call, text, email or chat? Probably all of them…so can you offer each one? (Don’t make someone decide if they want to go through your hoops…remove all the hoops) Do they need to see pricing online – should it be available and transparent? (In most cases, yes) What sales process will be ideal for moving the most people through the sales conversation to a successful outcome? (More discovery, empathy, active listening. More front-loaded about them, not you. Use the Authentic Persuasion Pathway as your model) Who are the decision makers? Is that individual going to decide or do they need to check with others for approval? (Set them up for success, and don’t force them to make a decision in the moment – you will just lose the potential sale) What type of follow up do they want and need until they make the buying decision? What type of post-purchase follow up would go above and beyond a) their expectations and b) what others in your industry do? If there is an ‘onboarding’ stage after the sale – how can you make that actually customer centric and successful? (It is rarely both) Can You Stay Ahead of the Curve? Remember – evolution is natural. The buying public is always evolving their desired sales experience. Can you predict the future of what they want so that when they encounter your company it matches what they were hoping to find – both in the experience and the solution to their need?
By Jason Cutter February 25, 2025
How do you, as a sales leader, help your team become Oracles that can predict the future? [make sure to read the Selling Effectiveness article this week https://go.sellingeffectiveness.com/LI.2.25.AM ] There are five ways to facilitate their Oracle-ness. Be Present in the Moment First, you have to get your salespeople to be in the moment. The challenge that most salespeople (and…humans, for that matter) experience is they are always thinking ahead. Salespeople default to thinking about what they will say next. The next part of their script or process. The next question they want to ask so they can get through discovery. The next part of the agreement they need to discuss and review. Their mind is too busy thinking about what they are going to say and do next, that they aren’t present. As weird as it sounds, if you want to predict the future you must be present. I have said this for decades: the moment you no longer need to think about what you are going to say/do next and can actually be present with your prospect and truly listen to what they say (and don’t say) – you will become a sales professional. Master Active Listening Second is Active Listening and paying closer attention. It’s actively listening…it’s taking what I mentioned above and putting into place. First step is to be present, second is to actually listen. For what they say. For what they aren’t saying. For changes in their tone. For when they are talking to someone on the side – who are they talking to, and is it about your sales conversation? If you sell in person, reading their body language and facial expressions. You must help them develop an almost sixth sense of listening (and yes, I know hearing is one of our senses…but this goes beyond hearing…it’s truly, deeply listening). Ask Better Questions Third, is to help them ask better questions. So many people in sales ask the discovery questions they are required to ask in order to check the discovery ‘box’. Or, they have done sales long enough they know all the answers, they think they know what everyone wants and why, so no reason to even ask questions. [Note – this type of salesperson thinks two dangerous things: 1 - everyone is the same and wants the same thing, 2 – people like to be sold to.] When your team asks better, deeper discovery questions with a focus on uncovering the what and the WHY, they will get better answers. Remember this – when you ask the right questions and you listen close enough, each prospect will tell you EXACTLY how to help them buy. Build Up Experience Fourth, build up experience. If you want to predict the future it comes from enough experience to know the probability of what will happen. For example, when I am in a season of commuting from home to an office, I am the type of person that can predict exactly what will happen on the freeway. Which lane is always faster around certain exits, which lanes always slow down, how much leaving five minutes later can make the drive suck a lot more. How do I know what will happen on a freeway with hundreds and hundreds of random people? Because of experience (and the fact that most people are just going through the motions in life so they become predictable). The more experience your team has with sales scenarios, they more they can predict the future. I generally see that it takes about six months for most people in a new sales role to have seen enough scenarios where they can start to know what will come next before it happens. Trust Intuition The fifth and final trait to help them with is intuition. One definition of intuition is “a thing that one knows or considers likely from instinctive feeling rather than conscious reasoning.” It’s that feeling you get when you know something, even if you cannot explain it. It’s what Malcom Gladwell wrote about in Blink! It’s what we do very well as humans, even if we don’t listen to it. The more you can help your team tune into their intuition and listen and trust it – the better they will do in helping persuade that other human. This goes back to the first suggestion – about being present. When your team trusts they know what to do and say next and they are mentally living in the moment with that prospective client, they can let their intuition guide them. Conclusion When I do trainings, public speaking, facilitating meetings, interviews, and sales – this is my main key to success. I trust and know that I have the experience to handle whatever comes my way in the present moment, while also knowing the destination I am heading towards. I can be present, let that experience and my intuition guide me instead of getting stuck in my head and worrying about what I will say next. Get your team to do some or all of these five steps – and they will become an amazing Oracle.
By Jason Cutter February 25, 2025
The Oracle’s Role in The Matrix If you have seen the Matrix movies, starring Keanu Reeves (as Neo), then you are familiar with an Oracle. In the movies, the Oracle knows what will happen. She has seen it, and it is predestined. In the Oracles mind there is no such thing as free will. In the first Matrix movie, Neo goes to visit her and knocks a vase off the shelf, and it hits the ground and breaks. Right before he hits it, she says “Don’t worry about the vase.” Neo says, “How did you know?” Then the Oracle responds with “What’s really going to bake your noodle later on, is would you still have broken it if I hadn’t said anything.” Becoming an Oracle in Sales Your mission as a sales professional is to be an Oracle for your prospects and clients. To know the future. Then be able to see around corners, as they say. Which means you know what is going to happen before it happens, because you have enough experience that you have become a psychic. You want to be able to predict, with amazing accuracy: What will happen next What will happen after that What issues will pop up What your prospect/client is thinking before they think it What concerns they might have before they have them Eliminating the Fear of the Unknown During your presentation/demo you want to set the expectation of what is going to occur next. Remember, humans fear the unknown. They want to avoid risk as much as possible. Your sales presentation is risky and dangerous and very unknown. They don’t know if you have good intentions or not. Are you going to persuade them? Are you going to try to manipulate them? Are you going to overcharge them? Will you actually care about what they need and want? Dealing with salespeople is so scary. Yet they still need and/or want something, so it’s the dangerous game they must mentally play. Guiding the Buyer Step by Step When you explain what you are going to do in part 1 of your process, and then what that part is done you let them know the plan for part 2, and so on – they will be at ease in the moment. They will feel like they have control over this portion, that there is an exit they can take if they don’t want to proceed. That level of control will help them accept the risk of part 1, and part 2, and part 3. Tell them what you will do. Do it. Tell them what you did. This will validate that you can be trusted. Predicting Thoughts and Feelings The next level is being able to predict what they will think and feel before they do. You can use this information in your presentation (without telling them what you are doing). You can also verbalize it, which could sound like “I am guessing from experience that you are probably wondering about _____, so let’s cover that right now.” Or “most people I speak with ask about _____.” They will think – wow this person knows what I am thinking, he/she is in my mind! And that’s a good thing. A really good thing. Conclusion The more they feel like you know what you are doing, know what they are thinking, know what they are afraid of – the more they trust you as a Guide. Because Guides only know what they know because they have helped other Heros successfully accomplish their journeys. Your mission as a sales professional: Become an Oracle.
By Jason Cutter February 19, 2025
What does it take to build the ideal Sales Experience? Why does it even matter? Maybe you think you already have one. You are a professional sales ops leader. You have put everything you can in place to help your salespeople sell more. You have optimized the processes so that your sales team can focus on one thing – selling. But I promise – even if you think all of that is true, it’s not. The Reality: No Perfect Sales Experience Exists I have never seen any company or team with the ‘ideal’ Sales Experience and operation. And to be honest – I have never built one successfully. Why would I admit that? Because the ideal Sales Experience is aspirational and business, teams, processes, and customer needs/desires are constantly changing. So as soon as you put new processes in place, something else needs to change and evolve. The Scalable Sales Success Iceberg In my Scalable Sales Success Iceberg – there are 24 categories that, when built out, create a scalable sales machine – where you can add in an input and get way more output. I would love to see companies have all 24 categories set up and running optimally. But that’s not even possible – because, as I mentioned, things are always changing. Focusing on the Biggest Levers Here is the key – to build the ideal Sales Experience takes focus on the biggest levers. The ones that, when pulled, create the biggest and best results. There are many processes and systems that you can put in place – but those are going to get you a few percentage points of improvement. Instead of putting it all in here, I want to make you a special offer. Email me at jason@sellingeffectiveness.com with your mailing address, and I will mail you the book that I co-wrote with Nick Glimsdahl called Reasons Not To Focus On The Sales Experience. It will be your starter guide, facilitating the creation of your ideal Sales Experience.
By Jason Cutter February 18, 2025
The Numbers Game Mentality is a Losing Strategy Sales is no longer a “numbers game.” You cannot succeed, long term, by focusing on volume of activity. Making a million dials, sending a million emails, knocking on a million doors (the first two are way easier than that last one) is a scorched earth strategy that will sink your business. You can’t out-dial a bad sales process. It will lead to even more bad online reviews. You can’t out-email a terrible sales funnel process that requires people to jump through poorly planned hoops. You can’t out-knock your way past slimy tactics and bad products/services. The Danger of the "Every No Gets Me Closer to a Yes" Mindset The whole “every no gets me one step closer to a yes” mentally is dangerous. That mindset and strategy assumes that it’s a numbers game. That the only thing that matters is finding the right person who will buy from you. Potentially, no matter what you even say – they are just ready to buy. Not only will this destroy any online reputation you have it will also wreak havoc on your team. It is the fastest and best way to burn out your team. It will lead to a revolving door or hiring, training, and quitting as people realize how unfun the game is you have built and how hard it is to be successful. It will also feel like a mismatch – very few people (and hopefully even less over time) are long-term excited about the business model of calling 500 people a day in hopes of making a few sales. If It’s Not a Numbers Game, Then What Is It? It’s quality over quantity. [Now…note – it does take a certain quantity of activity to fill a sales pipeline. So I am not saying that your sales team can just sit and wait for people to fall into their pipeline with money in hand.] It’s about the Sales Experience. It’s about your team ensuring that they are providing the right and best experience for that potential customer – in a way that sets them up to get into the buying mood and mode. All that matters is the Sales Experience. How can you support your team in terms of the quantity of activity to fill a pipeline, and then the quality of interaction that leads to sales? What Does an Ideal Sales Experience Look Like? What does that look like – the ideal Sales Experience? It’s when your team understands that the potential customer they are speaking with only cares about themselves. They don’t care about the salesperson, your company or the product. They are only focused on themselves. It’s when the Discovery/Empathy portion of the conversation is the most important part. Does your team realize that everything after Discovery – when done right – is just a presentation of the solution? It’s the fact that when you combine the parts of the Authentic Persuasion Pathway (Rapport + Empathy + Trust + Hope + Urgency) that the assumptive close is all you need. If your team is having to ask for the sale they are doing sales wrong. And don’t confuse earning the right to close with asking for the sale. The Sales Leader’s Role in Creating a World-Class Sales Experience Your job as a sales leader is to ensure your team understands that the only thing – above all else – is the sales experience they provide to each potential customer. That customer knows that they have the power and the feeling of unlimited choice. Which means they will decide who to give their money to based on the experience they have with buying from a company. How can you shift your team away from the numbers game mentality to actually providing a world class sales experience to each and every person they speak with?
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