E85: Q&A Week: How come I used to close deals and now I don’t?

January 2, 2024


What do you think about being honest with potential customers, even if it means losing a sale?

It is the most unthinkable thing from a management/owner point of view.


Every prospect should be sold to.


There is never a time when a prospective customer should be allowed to walk away, let alone actually encouraged to walk away. Right?


I address the question that plagues a lot of new salespeople (or those thinking about getting into sales): “As a salesperson, have you ever talked someone out of buying your product or service because you knew it wasn’t a good fit?

  • Show Transcript

    Welcome to episode 85 of the sales experience podcast. I am so glad that you’re here.


    I know I say that all the time, but I truly am. I am so thankful. This is the first episode you’ve ever listened to and you saw something while you’re scrolling through iTunes or Stitcher, Sound cloud, Spotify, online, whatever it was, looking for something sales related, or maybe you’ve been listening to all the shows and you’ve listened end plus episodes so far.


    I appreciate either one of you no matter who is listening to this. I’m so glad that you’re here. I take that as a sign that we are all gonna make an impact and change the way that sales is viewed in the world, seen as a profession and not just the slimy, terrible snake oil salesman kind of used car persona, which has plagued the sales industry for so long and unfortunately there’s enough bad actors that keep perpetuating that terrible stigma and my goal is to change that.


    That is my mission. I’m so glad that you’re listening to this. Hopefully you take part in that mission and we can all change this together. For today’s question that I want to answer. I haven’t really gotten this question to many times up front.


    Mostly because when I’m training or talking to salespeople or talking to companies, I bring this up as something that I view as super important. The question that I saw online recently was, as a sales person, have you ever talked to somebody and talk them out of buying your product or service because you knew it wasn’t a good fit?


    Now this kind of goes into several of the different questions and answers that I’ve done this week. If you haven’t listened to them, you know yesterday’s episode talking about follow-up on leads and why follow-up is so important because you’re not going to close everybody in one call.


    So you’re gonna have some follow ups and episode 83 I talked about, you know, what’s the one big thing that most people don’t realize that maybe they wouldn’t have gone into sales if they had known? And that’s the level of rejection, the level of not closing deals in all of that.


    You’re never going to close 100% nobody should ever close 100% and the reason why is because it’s fundamentally not a good fit for everybody. No matter what you’re selling, no matter what. Right? Like I’ve been in so many different sales business to business, business to consumer, big ticket, you know, mortgage real estate down to small, helping people with little things.


    It doesn’t matter no matter what. I can think of times where literally it’s not the best fit. Let’s take mortgage for example, is a lot of people, especially during the height of the mortgage craze in the early two thousands where everybody wanted to buy a house and there was so many times I saw people and it’s like this is not the right thing for you.


    You should not buy. Know that you’re excited. I know you’re hyped up. I know everyone’s telling you should, but literally you shouldn’t. Now that’s the most important thing in my opinion, that separates a sales professional, which again is my goal with this show and everything I do with sales teams, consulting, whatever that looks like.


    But that is the difference between a sales professional and just a sales person. In my opinion. It’s the ability to ask questions, diagnose somebody’s situation, really dive into what they need, what they want, what they’re qualified for, what will really help them, and then looking at what your solution does. Whatever your product is, whatever your service is, and fundamentally understanding if it is a good fit.


    If you prequalify somebody and your product or service doesn’t make sense for them, that true sales professional will tell them that we’ll tell them that it’s not a good fit and hopefully make a recommendation of where they should go.


    Instead, I will tell you, I have blown the mind of so many prospects over my whole sales career when I told them, hey, here’s what we offer. This isn’t a good fit for you. Here’s why, and here’s what I recommend. Instead, I recommend you go do this. Instead, I recommend you file bankruptcy.


    Instead, go talk to a bankruptcy attorney and see what they think. You know, there’s so many different situations where it’s not a cookie cutter, one size fits all. If you’re trying to sell something to every single person you talk to and you’re trying to shoehorn that into your solution every single time, it won’t work.


    Now, here’s what I’ll tell you. There’s some people who are really good at that. I know I could be really good at that if I wanted to and I could sell things to 100% of the people I talked to are pretty damn close.


    The challenges is that you’re going to then have a high cancel rate. People are literally going to wake up at two in the morning knowing what you should have told them and what you knew was the truth, but you didn’t want to tell them which is what they just bought doesn’t make sense, and so at two in the morning they’re going to wake up in a panic and then they’re going to do their best to cancel whatever that looks like.


    That is why it’s so important to be honest, transparent and authentic. I covered this early on this week actually in answering the question on the first day on episode 81 but those three things will lead you to situations and scenarios where literally your telling that prospect that they shouldn’t buy from you, that it doesn’t make sense and a lot of owners, when I tell that to them, they kind of freak out because they think that everybody should buy and if they’re going to buy a lead, they’re going to pay for marketing whatever they’re going to do.


    They think, hey, we need to sell that person because they’re looking at the top line. They’re looking at the bottom line, revenue, profitability, all of that. But fundamentally, when I explain it, the key is that it’s not always a good fit.


    Whatever you’re selling, no matter what, I don’t care what it is, business to business, business to consumer, doesn’t matter. It’s not a perfect fit for 100% of the people out there. It doesn’t make sense for them and there’s going to be prospects that you come across who are going to inquire.


    They’re going to fill out a form, they’re going to call into a number, they’re going to respond in some way, and you really, it’s not going to fit. Now, I’m not saying you want to go that route all the time. I’m not saying your goal is to find people who don’t qualify and kick them to the curb.


    I’m also not saying, you know, goal is to find those people who don’t qualify and then twist their arm and move them forward. Your job is to uncover as much information as possible. Use questions, fact finding discovery, and figure out what their wants, needs, struggles, pain goals, whatever it is for them.


    Figure that out in your sales process and then diagnose it like a doctor as a good doctor should do. It’s not about having the solution for everyone that looks the same. It’s about finding a customized solution to get that person out of pain or get that person to where they want to be instead of where they are now.


    So that is your goal as a sales professionals to do that same thing for your prospects. Sometimes you may tell them that they’re fine, they’re doing great, they don’t need any help or they shouldn’t buy from you and they keep doing whatever they’re doing.


    Sometimes you may say, Hey, I don’t have the right solution, but you know what? Go here. They have the better solution or this is what I think you should do instead of what we have.


    If you come from that place, if you tell people the truth, whether it’s to buy from you or not buy from you, and you do that in an authentic, transparent way, you are going to have an amazing sales career. And the reason why I say that is for the people you say, yes, you need to buy, you know, mentally inside in your heart of hearts that you know that that’s the right thing to do. If you tell somebody, yes, you need to buy from me, it’s because that fundamentally is the truth.


    If you tell somebody, no, you shouldn’t buy from me, you know that’s the truth and it will blow them away and they won’t know how to respond.


    Sometimes they’ll still want to buy anyway because they appreciate that you’re so honest and authentic and if they don’t buy from you, that’s a great way to plant seeds for referrals because they will literally run around and tell all of their friends and family about the most honest salesperson they ever met, even that they didn’t buy from you.


    That’s a great way to get referrals is from people who you say, don’t buy from me. Go do this instead, I’m looking out for your best interest. That’s a great way to plant seeds, to get referrals. Hopefully that helps. Always make sure no matter what, by default, honest, authentic, transparent, whether they should buy or not buy.


    Always just find out enough information and treat them like you would want to be treated. In fact, even more than that, and I’ve heard this for years now, treat people like you would want a salesperson to treat your grandmother do to people what you would want somebody.


    If your grandma were to call into a company, how would you want your grandma to be sold or your parents to be sold, right? Or your sister to be sold, whoever that is in your life that you would not want to be taken advantage of. Treat people in that same way. Play the long game long-term, you will win as a sales professional. I promise.


    That’s it for this episode. Again, make sure to subscribe, rate, rank. Leave me a message. Send me something on LinkedIn. Keter consulting group.com I appreciate it. So great when people listen and then give me some feedback.


    Always, remember that everything in life has sales and people remember the experience you gave them.


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By Jason Cutter February 26, 2025
How Can You Predict The Future Of Sales Ops? One of the keys to sales success is to be able to predict the future – what that other person is thinking, what they might say, what they will experience, how they will feel about the product/service. But what can you do – from a sales ops leadership perspective – to predict the future in masse of all the potential customers that will flow into and out of the sales process/funnel? That is a really tough one, but it is doable. Meeting Prospective Customers Where They Are The key is to always meet the prospective customers where they are and with the experience they hope to find. It’s a common theme now in these articles because it’s important AND widely disregarded – your potential customers do not care about you, your sales team, your company, your industry. They don’t care about your stats, your testimonials, your logos. They don’t care about your mission statement or your values. They only care about themselves. They also firmly believe that there is currently unlimited choice for any product/service, which means that everything in their mind is a commodity. Easily replaceable and interchangeable. Nothing (other than iPhones…which you can only get from Apple) is special to consumers unless they feel like it should be special. Are You Still Making It All About You? There is a good chance you are still running a marketing, sales funnel that is all about you. I bet if I looked at your company’s website that from the top down it’s all about you (the company). How great you are. What you do for people. What you have done for others. I bet if I tried to speak with your sales team, I will be made to go through your process whether I like it or not. Maybe fill out a form and wait for a response. Or made to call into a toll free number, even though I don’t want to talk to someone yet. Or made to use a chat widget on a site to get started. I bet when I speak with your sales team, 70-80% of the conversation will be about them, your company, and how amazing you all believe you are. This is all fair. No one starts a company to be mediocre. The goal is to provide value and make money. The missing piece, again like I said above, is no one cares about your goals. They only care about themselves. Predicting What Customers Want From The Sales Experience Back to your mission as sales ops leader – predict what massive amounts of prospective customers are going to want from the Sales Experience. It’s why I wrote about it last week and even offered up a book for free to help in any way that I can. To succeed at your mission, you have to stay ahead of the curve of what the public, and specifically – your buying demographic, psychographic, and valuegraphics, want from that experience. Key Questions To Shape The Sales Experience Do they want to call, text, email or chat? Probably all of them…so can you offer each one? (Don’t make someone decide if they want to go through your hoops…remove all the hoops) Do they need to see pricing online – should it be available and transparent? (In most cases, yes) What sales process will be ideal for moving the most people through the sales conversation to a successful outcome? (More discovery, empathy, active listening. More front-loaded about them, not you. Use the Authentic Persuasion Pathway as your model) Who are the decision makers? Is that individual going to decide or do they need to check with others for approval? (Set them up for success, and don’t force them to make a decision in the moment – you will just lose the potential sale) What type of follow up do they want and need until they make the buying decision? What type of post-purchase follow up would go above and beyond a) their expectations and b) what others in your industry do? If there is an ‘onboarding’ stage after the sale – how can you make that actually customer centric and successful? (It is rarely both) Can You Stay Ahead of the Curve? Remember – evolution is natural. The buying public is always evolving their desired sales experience. Can you predict the future of what they want so that when they encounter your company it matches what they were hoping to find – both in the experience and the solution to their need?
By Jason Cutter February 25, 2025
How do you, as a sales leader, help your team become Oracles that can predict the future? [make sure to read the Selling Effectiveness article this week https://go.sellingeffectiveness.com/LI.2.25.AM ] There are five ways to facilitate their Oracle-ness. Be Present in the Moment First, you have to get your salespeople to be in the moment. The challenge that most salespeople (and…humans, for that matter) experience is they are always thinking ahead. Salespeople default to thinking about what they will say next. The next part of their script or process. The next question they want to ask so they can get through discovery. The next part of the agreement they need to discuss and review. Their mind is too busy thinking about what they are going to say and do next, that they aren’t present. As weird as it sounds, if you want to predict the future you must be present. I have said this for decades: the moment you no longer need to think about what you are going to say/do next and can actually be present with your prospect and truly listen to what they say (and don’t say) – you will become a sales professional. Master Active Listening Second is Active Listening and paying closer attention. It’s actively listening…it’s taking what I mentioned above and putting into place. First step is to be present, second is to actually listen. For what they say. For what they aren’t saying. For changes in their tone. For when they are talking to someone on the side – who are they talking to, and is it about your sales conversation? If you sell in person, reading their body language and facial expressions. You must help them develop an almost sixth sense of listening (and yes, I know hearing is one of our senses…but this goes beyond hearing…it’s truly, deeply listening). Ask Better Questions Third, is to help them ask better questions. So many people in sales ask the discovery questions they are required to ask in order to check the discovery ‘box’. Or, they have done sales long enough they know all the answers, they think they know what everyone wants and why, so no reason to even ask questions. [Note – this type of salesperson thinks two dangerous things: 1 - everyone is the same and wants the same thing, 2 – people like to be sold to.] When your team asks better, deeper discovery questions with a focus on uncovering the what and the WHY, they will get better answers. Remember this – when you ask the right questions and you listen close enough, each prospect will tell you EXACTLY how to help them buy. Build Up Experience Fourth, build up experience. If you want to predict the future it comes from enough experience to know the probability of what will happen. For example, when I am in a season of commuting from home to an office, I am the type of person that can predict exactly what will happen on the freeway. Which lane is always faster around certain exits, which lanes always slow down, how much leaving five minutes later can make the drive suck a lot more. How do I know what will happen on a freeway with hundreds and hundreds of random people? Because of experience (and the fact that most people are just going through the motions in life so they become predictable). The more experience your team has with sales scenarios, they more they can predict the future. I generally see that it takes about six months for most people in a new sales role to have seen enough scenarios where they can start to know what will come next before it happens. Trust Intuition The fifth and final trait to help them with is intuition. One definition of intuition is “a thing that one knows or considers likely from instinctive feeling rather than conscious reasoning.” It’s that feeling you get when you know something, even if you cannot explain it. It’s what Malcom Gladwell wrote about in Blink! It’s what we do very well as humans, even if we don’t listen to it. The more you can help your team tune into their intuition and listen and trust it – the better they will do in helping persuade that other human. This goes back to the first suggestion – about being present. When your team trusts they know what to do and say next and they are mentally living in the moment with that prospective client, they can let their intuition guide them. Conclusion When I do trainings, public speaking, facilitating meetings, interviews, and sales – this is my main key to success. I trust and know that I have the experience to handle whatever comes my way in the present moment, while also knowing the destination I am heading towards. I can be present, let that experience and my intuition guide me instead of getting stuck in my head and worrying about what I will say next. Get your team to do some or all of these five steps – and they will become an amazing Oracle.
By Jason Cutter February 25, 2025
The Oracle’s Role in The Matrix If you have seen the Matrix movies, starring Keanu Reeves (as Neo), then you are familiar with an Oracle. In the movies, the Oracle knows what will happen. She has seen it, and it is predestined. In the Oracles mind there is no such thing as free will. In the first Matrix movie, Neo goes to visit her and knocks a vase off the shelf, and it hits the ground and breaks. Right before he hits it, she says “Don’t worry about the vase.” Neo says, “How did you know?” Then the Oracle responds with “What’s really going to bake your noodle later on, is would you still have broken it if I hadn’t said anything.” Becoming an Oracle in Sales Your mission as a sales professional is to be an Oracle for your prospects and clients. To know the future. Then be able to see around corners, as they say. Which means you know what is going to happen before it happens, because you have enough experience that you have become a psychic. You want to be able to predict, with amazing accuracy: What will happen next What will happen after that What issues will pop up What your prospect/client is thinking before they think it What concerns they might have before they have them Eliminating the Fear of the Unknown During your presentation/demo you want to set the expectation of what is going to occur next. Remember, humans fear the unknown. They want to avoid risk as much as possible. Your sales presentation is risky and dangerous and very unknown. They don’t know if you have good intentions or not. Are you going to persuade them? Are you going to try to manipulate them? Are you going to overcharge them? Will you actually care about what they need and want? Dealing with salespeople is so scary. Yet they still need and/or want something, so it’s the dangerous game they must mentally play. Guiding the Buyer Step by Step When you explain what you are going to do in part 1 of your process, and then what that part is done you let them know the plan for part 2, and so on – they will be at ease in the moment. They will feel like they have control over this portion, that there is an exit they can take if they don’t want to proceed. That level of control will help them accept the risk of part 1, and part 2, and part 3. Tell them what you will do. Do it. Tell them what you did. This will validate that you can be trusted. Predicting Thoughts and Feelings The next level is being able to predict what they will think and feel before they do. You can use this information in your presentation (without telling them what you are doing). You can also verbalize it, which could sound like “I am guessing from experience that you are probably wondering about _____, so let’s cover that right now.” Or “most people I speak with ask about _____.” They will think – wow this person knows what I am thinking, he/she is in my mind! And that’s a good thing. A really good thing. Conclusion The more they feel like you know what you are doing, know what they are thinking, know what they are afraid of – the more they trust you as a Guide. Because Guides only know what they know because they have helped other Heros successfully accomplish their journeys. Your mission as a sales professional: Become an Oracle.
By Jason Cutter February 19, 2025
What does it take to build the ideal Sales Experience? Why does it even matter? Maybe you think you already have one. You are a professional sales ops leader. You have put everything you can in place to help your salespeople sell more. You have optimized the processes so that your sales team can focus on one thing – selling. But I promise – even if you think all of that is true, it’s not. The Reality: No Perfect Sales Experience Exists I have never seen any company or team with the ‘ideal’ Sales Experience and operation. And to be honest – I have never built one successfully. Why would I admit that? Because the ideal Sales Experience is aspirational and business, teams, processes, and customer needs/desires are constantly changing. So as soon as you put new processes in place, something else needs to change and evolve. The Scalable Sales Success Iceberg In my Scalable Sales Success Iceberg – there are 24 categories that, when built out, create a scalable sales machine – where you can add in an input and get way more output. I would love to see companies have all 24 categories set up and running optimally. But that’s not even possible – because, as I mentioned, things are always changing. Focusing on the Biggest Levers Here is the key – to build the ideal Sales Experience takes focus on the biggest levers. The ones that, when pulled, create the biggest and best results. There are many processes and systems that you can put in place – but those are going to get you a few percentage points of improvement. Instead of putting it all in here, I want to make you a special offer. Email me at jason@sellingeffectiveness.com with your mailing address, and I will mail you the book that I co-wrote with Nick Glimsdahl called Reasons Not To Focus On The Sales Experience. It will be your starter guide, facilitating the creation of your ideal Sales Experience.
By Jason Cutter February 18, 2025
The Numbers Game Mentality is a Losing Strategy Sales is no longer a “numbers game.” You cannot succeed, long term, by focusing on volume of activity. Making a million dials, sending a million emails, knocking on a million doors (the first two are way easier than that last one) is a scorched earth strategy that will sink your business. You can’t out-dial a bad sales process. It will lead to even more bad online reviews. You can’t out-email a terrible sales funnel process that requires people to jump through poorly planned hoops. You can’t out-knock your way past slimy tactics and bad products/services. The Danger of the "Every No Gets Me Closer to a Yes" Mindset The whole “every no gets me one step closer to a yes” mentally is dangerous. That mindset and strategy assumes that it’s a numbers game. That the only thing that matters is finding the right person who will buy from you. Potentially, no matter what you even say – they are just ready to buy. Not only will this destroy any online reputation you have it will also wreak havoc on your team. It is the fastest and best way to burn out your team. It will lead to a revolving door or hiring, training, and quitting as people realize how unfun the game is you have built and how hard it is to be successful. It will also feel like a mismatch – very few people (and hopefully even less over time) are long-term excited about the business model of calling 500 people a day in hopes of making a few sales. If It’s Not a Numbers Game, Then What Is It? It’s quality over quantity. [Now…note – it does take a certain quantity of activity to fill a sales pipeline. So I am not saying that your sales team can just sit and wait for people to fall into their pipeline with money in hand.] It’s about the Sales Experience. It’s about your team ensuring that they are providing the right and best experience for that potential customer – in a way that sets them up to get into the buying mood and mode. All that matters is the Sales Experience. How can you support your team in terms of the quantity of activity to fill a pipeline, and then the quality of interaction that leads to sales? What Does an Ideal Sales Experience Look Like? What does that look like – the ideal Sales Experience? It’s when your team understands that the potential customer they are speaking with only cares about themselves. They don’t care about the salesperson, your company or the product. They are only focused on themselves. It’s when the Discovery/Empathy portion of the conversation is the most important part. Does your team realize that everything after Discovery – when done right – is just a presentation of the solution? It’s the fact that when you combine the parts of the Authentic Persuasion Pathway (Rapport + Empathy + Trust + Hope + Urgency) that the assumptive close is all you need. If your team is having to ask for the sale they are doing sales wrong. And don’t confuse earning the right to close with asking for the sale. The Sales Leader’s Role in Creating a World-Class Sales Experience Your job as a sales leader is to ensure your team understands that the only thing – above all else – is the sales experience they provide to each potential customer. That customer knows that they have the power and the feeling of unlimited choice. Which means they will decide who to give their money to based on the experience they have with buying from a company. How can you shift your team away from the numbers game mentality to actually providing a world class sales experience to each and every person they speak with?
By Jason Cutter February 17, 2025
The Abundance of Options Today we all have lots of options. While writing this I could speak into my phone and order whatever I want. I can get food delivered before I finish writing this article. I could get a TV delivered to my door before I wake up tomorrow. When someone wants to buy something, they are armed with as much information as they want to access. They can research, read reviews, and watch videos about a product or company. The Shift in Power to the Buyer Because of this, the power balance of sales has shifted away from the salesperson and company to the buyer. Knowledge is power – and they now have all the knowledge they want. With knowing that they have ultimate choice of what to buy (internet and globalization has led to the ability to order anything you want from anywhere…so you are no longer limited to the stores you can drive to and what they have on hand), it means that everything is a commodity in their minds. Nothing is unique or special. Everything is interchangeable. Does the Sales Experience Even Matter? So, this means the sales experience doesn’t matter anymore. There is no reason to put effort into the sales process, the conversations with potential customers. No value in spending time trying to ‘help’ people – since they just view products, salespeople, and companies as interchangeable. You are not special, so there is no benefit in caring. They will walk into your store, and they will decide what they want. They fill out your online for, and they decide if they answer when you call and how the call will go. They walk up to your event/booth, and they decide how the interaction will go and if they want to listen to your elevator pitch. They will let you know if they are interested in moving forward. They will let you know how they want to buy. So, like I said above, there is no real value anymore in the sales experience. Or could it actually be valuable? Is it possible that all that matters IS the sales experience? If people feel they have ultimate information and control of the buying process, how do they decide on what to buy and who to buy from? When I search on Amazon for a product type I have never purchased before, how do I pick? When I want to go shopping for garden supplies for the house, how do I pick where to go? When I need to buy a new fridge, who will I hand my money over to? The cheapest place with terrible service? The place with reasonable prices and great service? The Sales Experience Shapes the Decision I choose based on the sales experience that I will receive. With everything else being equal, I (and I believe most people) will select the place to shop at or the products to buy online based on the experience I receive. To me all that matters is the experience. While I am trying to buy something. Once I receive it – ensure it does what I need it to do. With the feeling of unlimited choices, it can actually be harder now to buy something that in the past. People get into analysis paralysis more often. Which means that for consumers to buy something new they need help. They need a professional salesperson. They need a sales experience that matches their expectations. They want a guide who will help them make the right decision for them, with an experience that goes above and beyond what more people receive any more when they walk into a store, call a company’s toll-free number, or visit a website and have to fill out a form. If you want to succeed in sales – the only thing that matters is the sales experience you provide.
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